A Must Read For All Christians: What You Don’t Know About Missionary Dating

 

Thoughtful Thursday! With Ogundeji Susan.

A Must Read For All Christians: What You Don’t Know About Missionary Dating

BY: Ogundeji Susan

I know the phrase ‘missionary dating’ might sound strange to some and some will definitely have come across it at one time or the other, some could be very familiar with it. It’s something very common these days among people who are believers. For the sakes of those not very familiar or hearing it for the first time, we will be defining the term: missionary dating.

Missionary dating is when a Christian dates a non-believer for the purpose of converting them over to Christianity. Of course, we all know this is bad but at one time or the other we’ve found ourselves in such relationships. This is a very bad idea. You aren’t the Holy Spirit who convicts people of their sins, if a man/woman promises to become a believer just to have you, he’s probably not sincere.

Thinking or deciding to spend the rest of your life with someone you do not share the same depth of faith with is as risky and deadly as jumping down from a skyscraper! Do not because of a relationship or marriage compromise on your long built faith.

We’ve heard of many stories where the man promises to allow the lady continue her faith after marriage, then he eventually forces her to convert over to his own religion, don’t you think it’s best to be on the safer side by choosing wisely and rightly while you still have that right before it’s being forcefully taken from you?

Lets look at some of the reasons why missionary dating isn’t a good idea.
Your moral values do not align(Proverbs 12:26):

Imagine being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t see anything wrong in premarital sex, holiness, righteousness and all those views Christianity holds dear, don’t you think he/she will eventually con you to his/her side?

2.nothing good ever started with dishonesty:
imagine if you later discovered one of the parties was pretending or deceiving you just to get you, how will you feel, I’m sure you will feel bad, then put yourself in the person’s shoes!

3. It is against God’s plan for marriage (2 Corinthians 6:14-16):

When we are dating, we hope it ends in marriage right? And God says in His words not to be unequally yoked together with unbelievers!

That guy/lady can never change except God changes him. It’s not your responsibility to convert anyone. Stay in God’s plan for your life, enjoy life, move far away from red flags.
Someone, who: cheats, beats you, drinks, smokes, think of any vices against your Christian values, can never change all in the name of He/she loves me, a leopard can never hides it’s spot, for how long can you hide a smoke? It will manifest no matter what!

Beloved, I love you and I do not want you to end up in a toxic relationship.

Consider people who your faith and values align, leave the bad boys for the bad girls and the church girls for the church boys!